Saturday, November 23, 2013
My Mother-in-law got released from the hospital yesterday with not many of our questions answered. A week in the hospital and all we know is that we need to get her into a senior facility asap that has care available as she has taken a downturn mentally and should not be living on her own. For now she is back in her apartment and has homecare lined up that come daily to see to her health and make sure she is taking her medication. Physical issues are one thing, decline in mental health is a whole different matter and one that is much harder to deal with, as physically she is much healthy than most 79 year olds. The papers are signed and she is now on a waitlist for a great seniors facility that has one bedroom apartments. The facility is attached to both a nursing home and the hospital for graduated care depending on your needs with access to meals and healthcare. She says she wants this, fortunately is not fighting any of it.
We had planned to stay with her for four days at Christmas. Right now that is up in the air. My brother-in-law who we don't get along with is making all the decisions right now. He feels that we shouldn't stay with her at Christmas - that it might upset her. I feel the opposite - that we should have the opportunity to spend some time with her. Unfortunately she feels as we live a Province away(us in BC and her in Alberta) we shouldn't be involved in the decisions - rather upsetting for hubby and I as she only has two sons and hubby's father passed away five years ago.
So yeah, just not feeling it this year. I want to see the kids and her this Christmas but it is just going to be weird this year. We booked our air tickets months ago and we are staying in a hotel in the town the kids live on Christmas Eve as that was planned - so they can easily spend time with us as we always spend Christmas Eve with them. We might just be spending all five days there. I was not anticipating that, mentally or financially. The kids are older, maybe next year we skip visiting at Christmas and come in early December when it is easier for everyone to visit. Who knows.
Today I have a bunch of errands to keep me occupied - I might try and put some Christmas lights up to hopefully change the funk I am in. I am craving comfort food to - I think I will go make a pot of Crock Pot stew.